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Jack-Vettriano-Winter-Light-and-Lavender-66131As long as I can remember I have always heard and was taught from a young age  about loving your neighbor as yourself, for if you don’t love yourself how can you expect anyone else to love , let alone  care about you.    Part of this  I think stems from a positive self image, but far to often even as a child one gets put down by those that are suppose to care  for or about them be it family or friends, it can be difficult at times.  It’s a rare person that helps to teach and show the way about loving self.   But some emotions and feelings can’t be taught; they come from deep within the individual, and to each person it can be a bit different and unique as we all are.   Loving yourself is different from being arrogant, conceited or egocentric.  Loving yourself means caring about oneself, taking responsibility for oneself, respecting oneself, and knowing oneself (e.g. being realistic and honest about one’s strengths and weaknesses). Also to be able to truly love another person, a person needs first to love oneself in this way.   Loving and caring for others is a natural extension of one ’s self.

Loving yourself requires you to be truthful about your own feelings. If you are happy, acknowledge the joy, likewise if you are sad, The-letter
acknowledge the sorrow. When you are truthful about your feelings, you do not try to lie to yourself or seek to bury your negative emotions. Instead, acknowledging what you feel can provide an insight into one’s thoughts.  Thoughts and actions can be changed, so that healing and self growth can take place.  When you spend time growing spiritually, loving yourself becomes automatic. You become more peaceful, connected, kind, loving and compassionate. You nurture a mind that grows more beautiful by the day. You naturally love yourself in the process and that can go a long way into making you a better person.   You have to find things that make you happy and enjoy that can be a sport, cooking, photography, painting and many more things.


All things that one enjoys and loves doing serves to make the individual a more rounded person and you are unique in that way.  No one else is like you or me everyone has a different thought process, different likes and dislikes.  Something I might like, enjoy or express someone else would not.   God made us all slightly different.   If we were all the same what a dull place the world would be.

Love of a Parent  (or aunt/uncle) for a child.  Love for Sibling(s)


I have no children of my own, but I have niece and nephew who I love with all my heart, and would do just about anything within my power for them, to help them and to teach them good values, accepting them for who they are, and not what I think they should be.   This is unconditional love.

But also when you are a parent, you love your child unconditionally warts and all. There is no love that can ever compare to the love a parent feels for the child, it starts even before they are born, and continues when they arrive.  Even if a woman is unable to conceive and a couple adopts a child, the feeling is so awesome and amazing.   You really begin to find out what real love is all about.
The love you feel for your child goes deeper than any love you have ever felt or will ever feel, even for your spouse or partner. You have a connection with the child because you know that he/she is a part of you and that they are the greatest gift you will ever receive. When you become a parent, you learn how to love someone without expecting anything and would give up your life if necessary.


A parent loves their child (or children) as long as their life endures. When parents feel the bond of life to the children, parental love naturally springs up. Parents cannot help but loving children, not because of a forced consciousness to love them intentionally, but because of life connecting them.  I grew up with 2 parents that loved my brother and I equally, taught us right from wrong and encouraged us, shared joys and sorrows with us and we also got taught good values.  We enjoy some of the same things, but there are things that my brother enjoys that I do not and vice-a-versa.   We are the same family but also our own individual person.  While I enjoy the theatre, my brother enjoys going to concerts of what musical artists he enjoys.   I enjoy music, as well as opera, but our musical tastes are different, just as we share things that we both enjoy and yet have things that we enjoy doing that are unique to the person (i.e., I enjoy doing calligraphy and crocheting, my brother enjoys hockey and skating).

Gabrielle Jean and a girl Pierre Auguste RenoirSibling rivalry is as natural as breathing, but as a child learning how to love another also seems to require guidance and attention for the parent or care-giver.   Yet there would appear to be personalities that are naturally more caring and loving, while some are born competitive and headstrong. It would be in a child’s best interest for their parents to nurture a love for their sibling, and I know that this is one of the many things our parents fostered in both of us.

A family is a team, and teamwork means cooperation, consideration, and care. No one has to go it alone (even if one is a single parent, there should be a good support system in place).  A child should lean that being part of the family team that you are in this together. They need to be cheerleaders for each other. Teach by example, but also with words. Prompt children to encourage each another if someone’s having a bad day or facing a big test. Children can learn to be huge supporters of their siblings. Clue them into the needs of their siblings. It is a unique relationship.   Siblings need to be an ally for each other.   Although outsiders can be fun to have over (friends, neighbours, other family, nothing can substitute for time alone with the family.

Parents should nurture each child’s talents without hurtful comparisons.  I guess part of the point about my brother and I (like my niece and nephew now) is that even though inherently we share traits, we are our own individual person as are any siblings, and are able to express our   talents and leanings.  We both were given opportunities to try and experience new things.   Also in working with children, celebrate diffences and success.  Siblings will learn to love each other for their unique contributions to the family.



Love is the most profound emotion known to human beings. For most of us (me included), a romantic relationship is one of the most meaningful things in our life. But the ability to have a healthy, loving relationship is not innate. At one time or another I am sure that many people have experienced a failed relationship, and we have to work consciously to master the skills necessary to make them flourish.With hard work and perseverance we succeed.

Daniela-Mezzadri__omaggio-a-Vettriano-6_gRomance is an expression of one’s strong love or a deed and strong emotional desire to connect with another person intimately.    But there is also what some define as platonic love (more of a friendship) than emotional.  Like a child for a parent, parent for child.  When one is truly in love it is all consuming.  All thoughts and desires are of the other person.  People do fall out of love, if they were ever in love to begin with, in such cases it can be called infatuation.   Or maybe if it was real love, and the     love and   romance dissipated, they simple drifted apart.   But the feeling and emotions come from deep within the core of one’s very being.   Writing of love such as sonnets, poetry and music aid in expressing our feelings toward another person.

Young love is sometimes referred to a puppy love, and is a new and scary experience, as the person has never felt anything like this before.  It can blossom into so much more for their intended or leave just as quickly as it came, like a brook heading toward a large lake or ocean.


Kathy Kiefer


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